I am a Dominant

What you can expect of me

Responsibility

I am responsible for my actions. Where I am, how I got here, what and who I am, I am me.
I am a Daddy, I like them younger then me, but then again, I am “old”.
I am (have always wanted to be) “in control” of “my world”. I work for myself, I am responsible for myself in life. That said, I also can acknowledge my weaknesses.
What: I Want a Master/slave relationship.

Emotional Resilient

I am clam, cool and collective. I am easy going and live a simple life. When “shit happens” I do not blame, I do not lash out, I look at the issue and work on a solution to solve or overcome the obstacles / problem (issue).
I am a “Spock”, logical, but with buried emotions. The emotions are guarded and managed in a controlled manner, while not harming others.

Leading

I do enjoy taking the lead, but only after one has allowed this. Meaning there is a talk, and if that goes well, then things change a little, if you understand. Thus prior this this, my “lead” maybe somewhat timid as I don’t want to be seen as being “pushy”. If you have ever seen my interact with a cat you would understand. First you need to agree to terms, then I can truly “lead”. That said, I am in charge.
Yes, I can and will listen to advice and opinions; but the choices will be mine. I will encourage, support, or challenge. And when I see the need lightly push her submissive nature holding her back or stopping her from achieving her (or my) goals for her.
I can compromise (some), I can negotiation, and I do listen.

Respect

This is something I must earn (thus the notes above). I can not “take the lead” right off the bat. That is something I need to earn. One needs to accept that I will not cause one harm(*) and am here to help. Once trust, respect, and like is established, then I’ve earned the beginnings of the submission I desire.
I understand what that means, it means putting yourself in a potentially vulnerable position. That is the chose a submissive is making, and I understand and respect that. It’s a choice made and respected.

Communications

I can communicate, I can list, I can read (some) non-verbal body language. I speak calmly, clearly, in a friendly, warm, and empathetic manner.
I want and expect feedback, input, and thoughts. I can adopt new behavior if needed.

Rules

I will set some “Rules”. These will explain how things will work, what is and is not expected.
These rules can cover many dynamics, including responsibilities, duties, orders, etc.

Disciplines

There will be discipline! Some enjoy being “bad”, others don’t. Either way, I am the one in charge, and if punishment is required, so it be. This is not a debate, this is not a choice, the rules will be followed and enforced!
I am confident, assertive. I have the will of strength and power to ensure all is well and calm in my world.

Cared For

I am willing to care for, and will not “treat badly”. I will do my best to ensure one is okay, loved and cared for.
I will be a good partner, helping when needed with decisions in life that can be difficult alone.

Sub Needs

While it’s all about me… It’s not, I can’t be what I want to be without, and as such ensure another is well too. That they are getting what they need out of the agreement (relation/partnership).
It’s not about forcing you to submit, it’s your choice to join with me in my life.
I need to ensure you are happy and well taken care of. That you are safe and not subjected to aggressive behavior without regard to your health, welfare & wellbeing.

Followup

I don’t take you as a pushover. I see this as a choice. You either have chosen or not to agree, accept and submit.

I can not “fix” your problems. I do enjoy saving the “damsel in distress” or at least trying to “save them”. That said, I can not. I can offer to help, if that does good, great!

Boundaries will be worked out and agreed to; albeit time on, time off, when, where, what, how, etc.

Answers to

https://kinkyevents.co.uk/responsibilities-of-a-dominant/

I’m in Charge